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Joan Lou Ingram

Joan Lou Ingram, 93, of Roeland Park, KS passed away Sunday, December 30, 2018 at home in the company of her daughters.  She and her twin sister, Joyce Perry were born July 3, 1925 in Parnell, Missouri to Theodore Francis Ingram and Sarah Jane Dukes Ingram.


After graduating from Parnell High School in 1943 Joan moved to Kansas City, Missouri, where she and her twin sister worked at Lerner’s Vogue Dress Shop and then a small defense plant during WWII.  After the war she met Charles O. Smith, Jr., just out of the Navy; they married June 30, 1946.  While raising her daughters, she worked for Wilson Sporting Goods until they closed their Kansas City office 29 years later.


She was our beautiful, tender-hearted muse—our story teller and song leader.  She enjoyed gardening and loved little animals, especially cats; making room for many in her lifetime. She was an avid reader and a founding member of the family Lady Bug Garden and Book Club. Music was a passion, always there was music, in good times and bad her life—our lives were punctuated with beautiful music.


She is survived by her twin sister Joyce Perry; her daughters, Joy Steck, Jennifer Smith, Janice Cain and husband Tom, Jerri Lynn VanOster and husband Tony; twelve grandchildren: Rebecca, Brandon, Michael, Jeff, Jamie, Polly, Kip, Jason, Jill, Ammie, Isaiah, Keith; eleven great-grandchildren: Ryan, Megan Chase, Hayden, Anthony Jr., Gabriel, Vincent, Raymond, Sonia, Aynssa, Seth, Alex, Alyza, Avery and great-great-grandchild Emilia.


The memorial service will take place at 1:00 pm Friday, January 11, 2019 at Porter Funeral Home; reception following.


In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Harvesters Community Food Network, 3801 Topping Ave., Kansas City, MO 64129 or


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Porter Funeral Home
8535 Monrovia
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Jan 11 ,2019
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1:00 pm
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Patrick Stadler Dec 31 ,2018

family friend ,Kansas City ,Kansas

my deepest condolences to the Pecina family, Gob Bless you all

Toni Franks/David Simmons, and family Jan 01 ,2019

Cousins ,Hollywood ,Florida

So sorry for your loss. Your mother sounds like a wonderful and unique person after reading her biography. Parents are missed forever but live on in our hearts infinitely. I pray you find the strength during this difficult time. Love, from all of us.

Virginia Harrison Jan 03 ,2019

Friend of Daughter Jerri ,Kansas City ,Missouri

So sorry for your lost. But I believe she is with our Lord Jesus Christ,and enjoying music and gardening with Jesus and many others. Love always Virginia and Charlie

Marian Thomas Jan 05 ,2019

Dear Jennifer, Thank you for sharing your mother's story. How good that there was always music in your lives. My mother died at 99 6 years ago. By re-reading her many letters to me, and by writing her biography, she continues to encourage and guide me, and what a blessing that is. I wish the same for you, as you treasure the memories made during her lifetime. Sincerely, Marian

Ed Burch Jan 06 ,2019

Nephew ,Kailua ,Hawaii

I have many fond memories of aunt Jo and family gatherings with lots of singing and lots of food. She will be missed by many.